Feelings

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On our wellness journey our relationship with our feelings play a critical role. The way we see our feelings plays a big role in how we relate to our feelings. We have classified feelings as negative or positive depending on our experience of that feeling. For example, anger may be viewed as a negative feeling, whilst happy may be viewed as a positive feeling.

We sometimes consider feelings as unnecessary. We may not see the need to talk about them or even “feel” feeling or on the opposite end, feelings may be our compass. Our frame of reference for making decisions. Our experiences of feelings are as diverse as we are. The truth about feelings is that they are messengers and that there are no bad or good feelings. Feelings come with a message and our role is to receive the message and then decide how to respond. There is space between our feelings and our response. We don’t always utilise this space effectively. For example: hitting your child because you are angry at your child or buying an overpriced item that you don’t need because you feel happy about news you received.

One of the ways we can learn to expand that space between feeling and action, is to simply sit with the feeling. What this means is that you do not take any action related to that feeling whilst you are still experiencing the feeling at an intense or overwhelming level. During this period of not acting on the feeling, it can be helpful to engage in supportive activities to keep you present and aware of the feeling without the overwhelm of wanting to act.

Supportive activities include but are not limited to:

intentional breathing,
listening to music,
talking to yourself (in healthy ways, which includes recognising that you are experiencing the feeling),
talking to a trusted person (without ruminating on the issue),
moving your body in ways that feel good for you.

Sitting with the feeling can be uncomfortable, especially if it is a new practice. Stay with it. It has the wonderful reward of bringing you to a point where you can truly see the deeper message of the feeling and then enabling you to take a decision when you are fully present. Try starting with feelings that you are relatively comfortable with. When you experience the feeling, wait before you act. Sit with the feeling, tell yourself that you are experiencing this feeling and then engage in an action that is not a direct action to this feeling. Explore the feeling a little bit, by asking questions about the feeling to yourself. After some time make the decision regarding the feeling and then act.

Finally, the most amazing thing about feelings is that when you take the time to sit
with it, you will learn a lot about yourself.

Yours in wellness,

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