Motivation – All Things Charlie https://allthingscharlie.com Authentic Living - Enhancing the lives of women and their connected ecosystems through experience Mon, 11 Aug 2025 17:44:10 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0 https://i0.wp.com/allthingscharlie.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/cropped-ATC-Favicon.png?fit=32%2C32&ssl=1 Motivation – All Things Charlie https://allthingscharlie.com 32 32 241163249 Walk Away https://allthingscharlie.com/2024/10/03/walk-away/ https://allthingscharlie.com/2024/10/03/walk-away/#respond Thu, 03 Oct 2024 11:04:40 +0000 http://allthingscharlie.com/?p=1907

Walk Away

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I am an optimist, and I will give chances upon chances and allow room for change when. The same behavioural patterns continue to occur, but I tend to lose my ability to trust people in their word.

Walking away has never been my strong suit because I wouldn’t say I like to give up. I don’t want people giving up on me because I am a work in progress. I have grown to have people around me cheering me on and holding me accountable for my bad behaviour and messes, although the bad behaviour has become less and less over the years.

So, do you see my dilemma? I cannot give up on people, let alone walk away. But sometimes, you are left with no choice but to walk away because staying will repeat cycles and even worsen matters. You will end up causing more harm than good because you cannot accept the way things are.

A decision must be made, and the only way for change to occur is to… WALK AWAY! Walk away with your tear-stained face, walk away with your broken heart and shattered dreams, walk away because you have done all that you could, and it didn’t help. To save yourself, you have no choice but to WALK AWAY with your dignity intact to heal; at least the hurt won’t last forever!

So, when things no longer serve you, and your presence causes more harm than good, please walk away by making your absence known.

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Growth

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How do you measure growth? I have been so hard on myself for as long as I can remember that God always gets me to STOP!
Stop to pause and reflect. I have learned to do this on a regular basis just to keep myself in check, and it actually allows me to be more present in my day-to-day life.
 
For so many years, the things I have been able to accomplish in the last two years have just been dreams and ideas, but in the last two years, I have been able to break ground and have tangible evidence of what I was able to accomplish and make my dreams a reality.
 
Just recently, I had a conversation with a dear friend of mine, Colleen. We spoke about how when you come to a place of maturity, all you really desire is contentment, the simple things in life—not chasing anything or going from one project to another, but being right where you are supposed to be, being present, and enjoying that season.
 
Growth takes place when we can reflect on where we were and are now. Have things changed? What has changed? Are you the same as yesterday, last week, last month, or last year?
 
When we honestly reflect on how we have grown, we will surely surprise ourselves, and the humility we experience in that moment is priceless.
 
Growth takes time and patience, and somehow, I have learned; while I seem to think I have not grown, God has a way to open my eyes to see just how far I have come and how much I have grown and it’s almost like I can hear Him say: “ I am proud of you, keep going.”
 
Take a moment to reflect on your life journey and see how far you have come. Then tell yourself, “I am proud of you; keep going!”

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Pay Attention

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Death has a way of making you stand still and evaluate your life. 

That’s what happened to me this past week as I received the news of a dear friend of mine’s passing. I was crushed. It felt like this week I was existing, but the passing of my friend had me sit and evaluate what I would want my life to be going forward. 

We all fight battles that no one really knows about, and sometimes, we come across as defensive and perhaps even angry because all our lives, that’s what we had to do: fight for everything and not back down. 

My friend Jules’s death got me into a space where I resolved that I needed to let things go; I needed to live my life every day for purpose and on purpose. I must live like there is no tomorrow. 

I was looking around me and reflecting on where I was when I was 33 years old. What was I doing? I was merely existing, and I was an angry bird. Here she was, leaving us at 33, having impacted so many lives. 

One big lesson I learned this past week is to really evaluate the battles I want to fight, let things be, and allow God’s. I want to will to be done allow Him to work things out, and surrender it all to Him while I keep my peace. 

Death has a way of waking us up. The question is, will we pay attention and wake up? 

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How Much Do You Value Yourself?

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For years, I kept communication lines open with my exes, never really understanding the gravity of that decision. Some of them thought, “Oh, I will always have access to her,” and some were quite entitled, demanding space in my life even though their time was long gone. 
 
Recently, a particular person of the past knocked on my door again, and this time, I was very candid. See, what that person didn’t know is that I am no longer the girl who craves validation from every man she laid her eyes on. What he didn’t know was that my standards are now intact, and I don’t need to keep conversations or fill my time with meaningless conversations that will lead nowhere. 
 
Once more, I realised that people are often just out here looking for distractions. For years, I was a part of someone’s distraction, part of someone’s guilt and shame that they didn’t want to face. For the last few years, I have learned to enforce boundaries and ask blunt questions like: What do you want? Why are you calling me? What are your intentions? Where is this leading? 
 
The minute I started to ask these questions was the very minute or even second that I never heard from them again.
 
Are you part of someone’s distraction? Are you using someone to be a distraction for you? Or have you awakened to see things for what they are? 
 
As I have grown and started to value myself and my time, I hardly sit around having futile chats; I don’t have time nor capacity to entertain what is not mine and what is not for me.
 
It was a hard lesson, but I am grateful I learned it.
 
My access to others is not automatic, and it’s actually a privilege for someone to have my time, not because I think much of myself but because I now know what my value is. 

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Choose Peace

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“It’s in the moments of decision that your destiny gets shaped.”- Tony Robbins 

So often, we fail to move away from things and places for fear of losing people. We stay longer in relationships/friendships, and the things we lose are ourselves and, most importantly, I think, time. 
 
We could have spent more time making lasting memories. The longer we stay in situations, friendships, and relationships, the longer we delay fulfilling our purpose and wonder why cycles /patterns repeat themselves. 
 
But it is us who are standing in the way of our new because we have convinced ourselves that there is no better out there. How wrong are we? It’s when boundaries are in place, decisions are made, and we finally see who the ones are who are meant to be in our lives. So we see how authentic relationships are birthed, and peace enters our lives in such a natural way. 
 
So often, we crave peace, but then we (you and I ) are the ones who are standing in the way of peace entering. Because we have been used to chaos and toxicity. We are so used to creating some drama where it really wasn’t needed. 
 
But how do we pursue peace? It’s simple: Say no to toxicity and chaos one moment at a time and ensure that as you let go of toxicity, you embrace peace in that void. 
 
Embrace peace one decision, one moment at a time.

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Holding Space for Someone

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When two worlds collide, it’s like nothing can stop these worlds from entwining, and somehow, as time goes by, you want this to stop, but you actually can’t, for it has only just begun…
 
For a while now, I have been thinking about the idea of “holding space for someone. ” Choosing to love someone through their hardships and trials is a prolonged season that just doesn’t seem to have an ending, but in this process, you learn to love, you cultivate patience, you see someone’s need to belong and be accepted, and you realize the true meaning of unconditional love.
 
You learn to be that person’s safe space and constant, and as much as you at times feel like you need reciprocation, you are okay with what that person is able and capable of giving right now, for you know, eventually, what you have been sowing will reap one day soon.
 
Are you able to hold space for someone? Or are you still struggling with needing to be held yourself?

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